Periods and pleasure: a self-care guide for menstruators

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You might be wondering why a menstrual cup brand has invited a guest post from a self-care brand. Just like menstruation, self pleasure is a topic that is very rarely openly discussed and has been a taboo for too long in society.

At Asan we celebrate smashing taboos of all kinds so we have collaborated with Manzuri for a guest post on self pleasure. 

This is a guest post by Manzuri, a self-care and wellness brand. All opinions shared in this post are of the author, Kavya Shah from Manzuri. Alt text:  an orange gradient with the text 'the art of period pleasure' and Asan and Manzuri's logos.

From wrapping pads in bundles of newspapers to euphemisms like "the time of the month," periods have been steeped in secrecy and shame. But here at Manzuri, we specialise in talking about the not-so-talked about things. 

Even before we learn to use a pad, women are socialised to feel ashamed of being on their period – of accidentally staining your pants or bleeding on someone’s bed. This fear and shame dominates the majority of our menstrual cycle, making period out to be this big bad monster in our pants that needs to stay hidden. 

So, how does this shame show up in our bedrooms and our intimate relationships?

Yes, we're talking about period pleasure. Have you ever wondered why we raise an eyebrow, or scrunch up their face or call it 'dirty'? 

To give you context about what I mean, according to a survey by Cosmopolitan, up to 55% of respondents believed that period pleasure is taboo!! That is more than half of the population. Some might be put off by the name, too; ‘periods’ are dirty, and the stigma attached to physical intimacy of any kind is widespread. It's double trouble. 

The tabooed tale of self pleasure

Physical intimacy remains a hush-hush topic. But there's something else we sweep under the sheets along with it—self pleasure. 

How old were you when you discovered self pleasure? A teenager? In your 20s or even later? If you think you were a 'late bloomer' when it came to lending yourself a hand you'll be pleased to find that you're not alone. 

Self pleasure has for generations been denied as a right to vulva owners. In fact, science still hasn’t processed that it is possible for there to exist an organ whose sole purpose is pleasure, which is why 23 years later there are still no diagrams showing the clitoris, even in urology textbooks. 

A study conducted by a gyneacological cancer charity, revealed that 52% of the participants could not correctly identify the vulva on a diagram. 

Manzuri is taking the battle head-on, getting down and personal. In a recent flea market event, our pleasure officers met with a curious young woman who spotted a clitoral toy and seemed puzzled. 

'Where does that go?'

It gives us immense pleasure, pun intended, to spread awareness about the clitoris, the unrivaled queen of female pleasure. 

While period pleasure may finally be getting its time in the sun- research shows that over 70% of couples enjoy physical intimacy during menstruation- masturbating during a period does not enjoy the same popularity. 

In fact, research related to self pleasure and menstruation is so limited it's difficult to pinpoint an exact statistic of people who engage in it, unlike period pleasure. Here at Manzuri, we're trying to change that. Read on to find out how!

Manzuri's secret recipe

Alt text: pink image of a young girl with thought bubbles with benefits of self pleasure

It's important to challenge these taboos and reclaim our bodies and sexual autonomy. 

Blend periods with a sprinkle of self-pleasure, subtract the weight of societal stigma, and watch as you transform into a happier, more empowered version of yourself! 

Self pleasure: The ultimate self care hack

Here's a mind-blowing fact: On average, vulva owners spend a whopping 2,535 days (that's around 7 years) of their lives menstruating. But why should that stop you from experiencing pleasure? 

Feeling queasy about the idea of physical intimacy during your period? Self pleasure during a period offers cramp relief without any associated risks like that of a pregnancy or an STI. An intimate massager like a vibrator or a dildo has got your back. 

According to a study, 71% of women reported that using a vibrator during menstruation increased their sexual satisfaction and pleasure. 

Besides, what's more empowering than taking your pleasure into your own hands, quite literally. As your loyal pleasure buddies, we're here to handhold you through the journey of creating your own period care kit. 

For the heavy bleeder

1. Lots of blankets and naps

What's better than the cozy comfort of snuggling up in blankets during your period? 

2. Stock up on extra menstrual care products. 

It's important to be prepared. You never know when you can run out! 

3. A hot water bag 

Applying gentle heat to your lower abdomen can help ease cramps and provide comforting relief.

4. Gulaabo mini 

Does the idea of looking down and seeing your hand covered in blood seem like a turn off? Worry not. You can opt for a clitoral vibrator like the Gulaabo mini which is specifically designed for clitoral stimulation. It's discreet, mess-free, and allows you to experience pleasure without any worries about cleanup.

Alt: hand holding the Gulaabo mini vibrator

For the busy bee

1. Grab a painkiller or two

When you're constantly on the go, managing your period along with a busy schedule can be challenging. Keep some painkillers handy for quick relief.

2. Your comfort outfits

Dress in comfortable and breathable clothing that allows you to move freely throughout the day.

3. Remember to take a break

It's easy to forget to take care of yourself. Schedule regular breaks in your day to rest, recharge, and give yourself some well-deserved self-care.

4. Dora

We understand your need for privacy on your busy schedule and so for you we've got a travel friendly buddy. You can opt for the classic beginner bullet vibrator, Dora!  Dora is super quiet and so tiny and discreet that you can take it anywhere, from the bedroom to the boardroom.

Alt text: hand holding Dora vibrator 

For the hard working mumma

1. Chocolates
Treat yourself to some high-quality dark chocolate, which is not only delicious but can also help boost mood and satisfy all your cravings.

2. Herbal tea

Sip on calming flavors like chamomile, lavender, or peppermint to help you unwind.

3. A pampering massage 

Treat yourself to a well-deserved pampering session. Add essential oils to help release tension and promote relaxation.

4. Khaleesi

What better way to unwind than with Khaleesi, the mother of all vibrators who understands all your needs. When you finally put the kids to sleep and want to keep things hush-hush, Khaleesi is your secret companion for a quick orgasm.

Alt text: hand holding khaleesi g spot vibrator 

For the pain warrior

  1. Painkillers

There's no shame in taking medication during your menstruation. They can help make your period more manageable.

2. Your favorite pajamas

Slip into your coziest and most comfortable pajamas. Put your favorite movie on and enjoy a night in. 

3. Bath bombs

Treat yourself to a luxurious bath experience with soothing bath bombs. You can also add some scented candles and create a romantic setting for self pleasure.

4. Suzume 

Suzume is the perfect addition to your kit as it can be used anywhere on your body. Suzume comes with a heating feature which is perfect heat therapy for comfort, relaxation and alleviating cramps. 

Alt text: hand holding suzume vibrator 

All Manzuri products are made with body safe, food grade silicone that makes it safe for use and easy for cleanup

And, of course, stock up on a pile of delicious junk food for later (trust us, you're going to get hungry). With these essentials, your perfect period self-care routine is all set!